About ems experience through cyber bullying
am twenty eigt and have SMLD/severe multiple learning disability as well as epilepsy with todds paralysis and other stuff. have been living in institutional and residential care for many years.
have been using the internet for many years also and experienced such a level of cyber bullying off one person over some years that it triggered severe pyschosis and severe major depressive disorder, when was diagnose the doctor said if was not living in residential care she woud have had to of section.
am still pyschotic and depressive though not as bad as was,but the person completely changed how see people.
the bully started off by copying words of mine from forums we were on and blog of mine to do what a support staff said was called grooming of a vulnerable adult. it means the person starts using peoples own words to manipulate them into thinking they relate to them and can trust them.
em didnt realise what he was doing, even though he woud ask via private message what medications was on and what adaptions and aids that used,didnt realise at the time he was using words of mine on the forum pretending to be like em even though it was often word for word copied.
eventualy he changed and didnt realise it then,whenever em started looking for help on forums he woud copy what em wrote and just make the severity a bit worser so that it drove people to that thread and not mine,he did this every time without fail and had even showed people it happening,em began to feel like had no where to go to get help because em cannot communicate problems verbaly.
unknowinhy he started bullying em to,by using differnt accounts, blackmailing, he stalked em across various forums and woud leave threatening or abusive messages on feedback of mine like calling em a burden/a retard as he knew from speaking to em what words hurt the most from past,he woud say am to low iq to be on an autism forum and dont have anything worthy to say.
he used mine and other peoples experiences of disabilities as his own on disability and support forums, often on parents forums to gain attention and pity off them,he loves being seen as a brave or hero person.he hated em because of the high level of support em get and also the benefits and services, he saw disability as a competition and em as his competitor,who he always ranted on about not needing the care was getting nor the benefits.
he even used to take em writing about being in a residential home as a competition for him to beat with a fake story,or he woud come out with stories of having been abused or raped or in care.
em had a very rough upbringing due to how doctors had told mum and dad to deal with em and ever since was a toddler mum has been a severe alcoholic,was neglected, beaten,picked up by wrist and thrown at the door and was beaten every day by dad because that was his way with dealing with severe autism and learning/intelectual disability.
the bully knew all this and used to rant on about it on forums how am spoilt,have everything done for em, and how the abuse was nothing and shoud be greatful because he is the only one that knew what real abuse was.
he woud private message after abusing,posing as a friend,and woud ask em how felt about it, unknowing at the time he was liking the pain he was causing em.
there was one day had made a video of self doing makaton with a support staff of mine to help people understand a bit about makaton but had only gave it out to friends, and as soon as it was posted had noticed the account had started to suspect had left some nasty comments about em on the video comments page.
at the same time he posted a comment on a forum we were both on that he was going to make a video of him doing makaton or 'his PECS' and then refused to show them when asked [because he doesnt require the use of either].
it was people on a forum was on who told em what was going on and confirmed what had thought,a person who had thought was a friend for years was a predator bully who coud have been targeting other disabled people!
a support staff of mine who had training in cyber bullying of learning disabled adults said he was likely doing it to other disabled adults and coud even be targeting children, he tried encouraging em to agreeing to let him get the police involved but because of the mental damage from this guy was unable to trust anyone had thought police woud harm em.
the national autistic society and family had also tried so often to get the police involved as well.
